Resist the tidal wave of dehumanizing those you disagree with!
Refuse to treat, speak about, or view any human as the “other.” You can deeply and passionate disagree with them, but remember that they, too, are loved by God. They have fears, wounds, and misguided good intentions, just like you do. We must resist the tidal wave of dehumanizing those we disagree with, and fight […]
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When bitterness becomes a controlling addiction.
A HURT is an EMOTION and RESENTMENT is a REACTION to that hurt. Emotions aren’t right or wrong. They just are. Resentment is how we choose to respond to an emotion. We can make different choices from that place. We often think we are ‘supposed to’ choose to not be hurt. No! We are supposed […]
The difference between fellowship and relationship.
Many do not understand the difference between fellowship and relationship. Fellowship is your current status. Relationship is your permanent position. If you are married, you can be out of fellowship with your spouse and still be married. You can be out of fellowship with your kids, and yet they are still your kids. When you […]
Forgiveness does not mean reconciling.
Peter asked Jesus, “How often should I forgive? Seven times?” Jesus replied: Seventy times seven! WHAT??? We read about God’s perspective in Jeremiah 3:34 “For I will forgive their sins and remember them no more”. ‘Remember no more’ is essential if we are ever to ‘forgive’. Forgiveness requires an ongoing effort of the will and […]
My declaration to love people back to life!
This is my declaration to love people back to life again. I will love people regardless of color, regardless of creed, or past deeds. I will pursue every prompting of the Holy Spirit regardless of the personal cost or loss of comfort to me. I will give whatever it takes to rescue and restore people […]
Help them heal.
Most Christians would not list shame as one of the top struggles, whether in life or in relationships. Shame is the “silent killer” that is present in most all relationships and marriages. We are unable to talk openly about our failures, past and present. We don’t feel vulnerable enough because we feel attacked. Are we […]
Don’t burn bridges.
When you dissolve a relationship, don’t do so in anger or bitterness. There is a way to walk away from a relationship without words of hatred or criticism or the placing of blame. At the same time, walk away from an unhealthy relationship with the full intent that you will not revisit that relationship in […]
You have choices!
One of the great things about being an adult is that you have choices. Detaching from people does not mean you don’t care about them. It simply means, you’re taking care of yourself and being realistic about what you can do in that situation. Stepping away or limiting to no contact at all, is sometimes […]
Peter didn’t walk on water, he steps out on one word, “COME!”
As He approached, in the midst of the swirling wind, the darkness, the blowing water and the roll of the ship, Jesus called out, “Take courage, it is I; do not be afraid.” When Jesus says in the midst of your storm, “It is I,” it’s a call to faith. When He says, “Take courage,” […]
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Violators of the heart.
These are relationships that prey on your heart and rob you of control over your life. Don’t give power to any person to manipulate you and control you. Nobody deserves that power, only God and God does not manipulate. God leads by loving you. No person can MAKE you lose your joy, your mind, your […]