One of the great things about being an adult is that you have choices. Detaching from people does not mean you don’t care about them. It simply means, you’re taking care of yourself and being realistic about what you can do in that situation.
Stepping away or limiting to no contact at all, is sometimes the best to protect yourself from that toxic relationship. Limited or no-contact isn’t intended to punish or manipulate others, it’s a form of self-care and self-stewardship of what God has given you in time and energy.
You don’t have to continue to be friends with someone who takes advantage of your kindness, or work for someone who criticizes and belittles you non-stop, or stay in a relationship with someone who gaslights you.
“Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic in which a person, to gain power and control, plants seeds of uncertainty in the victim. The self-doubt and constant skepticism slowly and methodically causes the individual to question their reality.”
We all have choices, sometimes we don’t particularly like any of them, but it’s important to know that we have them. We aren’t trapped or powerless.
Choosing to end relationships (even abusive relationships) is painful but a must for you to heal!