When you speak, your ears pick up the vibrations of sound waves, and your brain comprehends the vocabulary that you’ve selected, but most of the time, you actually aren’t “listening” to what you’re saying.
In other words, you’re not interpreting your words in the same way that the hearer is interpreting them.
Our words cause a lot of pain and hurt because we’re not hearing how the other person receives our words. That’s one reason why James says we ought to be “slow to speak” (James 1:19).
In your next conversation, be slow to speak and quick to consider how the other person might interpret what you have to say!