To set boundaries, first we need to learn to communicate without blaming. In other words, stop saying things like: “YOU make me so angry; YOU hurt me; YOU make me crazy; how could YOU do that to me after all I have done for you”; , etc.
These are the very types of messages we heard in our childhood that so warped our perspective on our emotional process. Instead, we should be using, “I statements”: “I feel frustrated/angry when you or when ‘this’ happens”.
LEARN HOW TO SAY WHAT YOU FEEL… TRUTH without EMOTION!
Setting boundaries without setting consequences is foolish. It’s impossible to set boundaries without them. Never state something that you are not willing to follow through with!